Tuesday, October 23, 2007

He's around....

I've just come off naijafineboys blog and felt a thinge of emotion run thru me with his intro.
even though i do not blog often or visit regularly i know blogville has changed. something has gone cold around here. Anyone knows why?

Me? I've been here, there, up, down. shuttling Lag and Abuja

I had a good time generally but was extremely busy...for fun, it was quite boring even the ceddi plaza wasnt much fun and it wasnt helpfull that the cinema's coming soon were movies i had seen in Lagos 3weeks before and thats the way it is on the reguar unless it changed yesterday.
Met great people though and the sanity of the city was good for me. i miss it and look forward to my next trip.


On my last trip , i stayed at the legislative quaters in Apo and sheard some very unbelievale gist but was confirmed by too many people that i had to swallow it.
If you live in Nigeria or ever, you would know those beggares that usually would come knocking on certain houses to beg the Alhaji for alms on the regualr. One of such beggars usually came beggin for alms at the house of a Honourable who usually gave him money. He came sometime and was told the man wasn't, he came again and was told same. Then he came the thrd time and was told the man was in but very busy and couldn't attend to him. Immediately he got angry and started cursing and warning the man that if he didnt come out this minute he would call on his God to take his money (he the beggar's money) away from him and give it to someone else who would not stress him before giving him.....

Immediately the Hon. ran out and postrates to the feet of this beggar, pleading and asking for forgiveness. This is not a case of using the man's goodluck (as in black jazz kinda thing. plain religion bondage) or any muslim brother wants to correct me?

it was unbelievable!

you know the truth, i had loads of stuff in my head to write before signing on here but right now, i cant wait to get back to this stack of letters and papers looking at me then to the studio to wrap up a documentary.

I'll be back though, i'll be around much longer!

Wednesday, August 29, 2007

Bits

well coming from a post about church,just reminds of church on Sunday.I love my church as in so much that whenever i do not go i miss it.i miss the worship cos its one of a kind,i miss the people,the love,the scenerey and ......am just attached to the church.its not so big,got a very accessible pastor who's my friend you know. so its so family really.
church is 9 am,Sunday school 8:15 but i dont fool myself about the SS cos i do not really enjoy it so i try to make it ontime for the main service which starts from 9 to about 11:30/12.so i start getting ride from about 8 nam to be on my way by 8:45 and get there for few mins to 9 but my sis would wait till about that 8:45 to start preparing then beg me to wait so i wud but i didnt like it cos we then get to miss a lot of the praisee and service without praise for me is never complete.so i've made up my mind to stop waiting for her.when we get to heaven we'll be operating on different accounts so let everyone work for their salvation.as i walked out of the house leaving here rushing to catch up with me,i meet a couple of her friends down the road who wanted me to also wait so we can go together.i paused for a minute and when they didnt show up i left.15mins into intensive praise and worship they walk in together and i was just thankfull i left em.
No the issue,have u ever wondered why u dont obey the ushers on where to sit.where u always insist on sitting on ur favourite seat even when they are saying to you to come somehwere else?
This woman walked in on Sunday and chose to sit on the second to the last row when the usher asked to go to the front rows she just ingnored him.15mins into the service her fone rings.some very funny ringtone like a desktop,she's so embarrassed.couldnt even look up as she just gave the same usher handbnag to take out and swtch off the mobile.she was so embarrassed she cudnt even stand up.

have u ever left ur fone on while in church?thats one question
2) ever rang before during service?
3)what do u do?

Bits and pieces

yea,life blows was my last post and since then av learnt a coupla thingies,same things av always heard and known but its just confounding to happen when least expected from where never imagined but life goes on.

a mans enemy lives in his home.
dines on his table.
lies in his bed.
true?

so whats been up with me?
mmh....here there,out and about........am a lil excited right now tho,cos some project have been working on and done series of meeting but the person just didnt seem to get it and we almost have to argue about i said,u said or i called and ur fone was off and bla bla bla...she just suddenly came around and the project is looking really good now. but that was after i took a good piece of advice from my colleague to give a present; and i did and it worked...

someone sent me this mail and its so true...



1. Isn't it strange how a 20 dollar bill seems like such a large amount when you donate it to church, but such a small amount when you go shopping?

2. Isn't it strange how 2 hours seem so long when you're at church, and how short they seem when you're watching a good movie?

3. Isn't it strange that you can't find a word to say when you're praying, but you have no trouble thinking what to talk about with a friend?

4. Isn't it strange how difficult and boring it is to read one chapter of the Bible, but how easy it is to read 100 pages of a popular novel or ZANE GREY book?

5. Isn't it strange how everyone wants front-row-tickets to concerts or games, but they do whatever is possible to sit at the last row in Church?

6. Isn't it strange how we need to know about an event for Church 2-3 weeks before the day so we can include it in our agenda, but we can adjust it for other events at the last minute?

7. Isn't it strange how difficult it is to learn a fact about God to share it with others, but how easy it is to learn, understand, extend and repeat gossip?

8. Isn't it strange how we believe everything that magazines and newspapers say, but we question the words in the Bible?

9. Isn't it strange how everyone wants a place in heaven, but they don't want to believe, do, or say anything to get there?

10. Isn't it strange how we send jokes in e-mails and they are forwarded right away, but when we are going to send messages about God, we think about it twice before we share it with others?

IT'S STRANGE ISN'T IT?

Monday, August 20, 2007

Lifes blows....

We ate together
we drank together
we shared a strong feeling
we shared passion
we shared love
we shared souls
but tonight,it was all out of the window.
Tonight i was betrayed by the one i loved and trusted so much...i laughed so hard i cried.
I really would av wanted to conclude the abuja story, but maybe later.right now
I'm just heart broken.....

Day 2

Hiya!
so day 2 in Abuja was pretty quiet.spent a lot printing letters,binding ,photocopying and browsing.then off to find a hotel.I've always had people look for hotels for me and fix all the stuff before my trip to Abuja and i never really spend more than a day or two.so itook a few things for granted this trip that i was going to spend four days 3 nights that eventually bcame 6days 5nights.
So the journey to find hotel that night took me from wuse two to Area 11 to central area then to some other districts i dont remember then eventually settled for some suite.which the taxi man said twaz the best i could get since all the hotels wev been to were full.so i walk into the musky reception,i see a few hausa men with white flowing agbada.seeing the dissatisfaction on my face,the driver points out that they are dignitaries in Abuja and they use this hotel he quickly added.i walk into the hallway and see some men walk across in shorts and tshirts.they look like runs men(yea...yahoo boys and fraudulent dealers)that worries me a bit but my driver was right behind me to tell- oh those are the big players here oo.they do Govt contracts.Then Steward opens the door of my room;its a big bed with a small lounge area,a TV and AC.it looked fairly used,not bad for 5,100 and i loved the bathroom.spacy,clean-as in bright sparkling(i read in while doing doo doo,so i love clean bathrooms)hot water and all.i agreed to take it,gave the driver money to settle the bills and when he shud come pick me the next day.Soon as they turned thier backs, i shut the door and ransack the room to be sure nothing will creep out in the middle of the night and start demanding for what i dunno.......sure coast clear.i washed my face as i was too tired to think of running any bath.tucked into the duvet with my note book on my lap to do some work,i dozed off....

Wednesday, August 15, 2007

Day 3

Hey !!!!
Naija done dey go really 21st century really.my friend was saying to me last week that he used free internet at Flavours cafe at the galleria and i disagreed and accused him of using their connection for free cos all the times i've browsed there, i paid.But here i am at this lovely,i mean sexy restuarant in abuja called Salamanda,right under Colors in Africa just by Mama Cass on Aminu Kano crescent in wuse two(i hope they will see this advert and come and pay me ooo.)its not just a fanstatic scenery,great; soothing music,affordable meal(yea,like 2300 for a meal with desert)and free internet plus laptop oooo.The laptop is theirs not to be taken away sha.nicely padlocked to the table...they just encourage you to buy at least a coke which cost 120 ,diet coke 400,chapman 500 or smooth shakes for 750-800.
So drop buy when u r in town.


My days been going okay,done the letters for the other ministries found a nice,unbelieveably cheap hotel for 4000 (nice puffy bed,AC,TV with DSTV, clean bath(its like all abuja homes and hotels have clean baths and also hot water running) and am like where have u been all this while?My meeting with Farafina publisher and my all time favourite newscaster Eugenia Abu was real good here at Salamadar.Then had to chill a bit for the last one for today with Audu Maikori the winner of the International Young Music entrepreneur of the year.Rub minds on a couple of stuff, then off to British council cafe at the rooftop,stop by at Nu Metro and feel Abj a bit.

we need run now actually...so i'll be here later!

The Little Good Deed

In my last post i wrote how the good Samaritan said to me'guy ,u must be a good guy o,for me to be carrying your around like this' and i said Na God oo'at that moment something dropped in my mind...
Beggars find me very attractive.
Am sure u r getting scared to me,but yea.if we are a group of ten people and someone walks in to ask for help,he'll approach the group,and either walk straight to me,PAST other people or excuse me from their midst and ask me for whatever the need.as in,it is scary..at work,on the road,at the movies,anywhere.and a lot of them have fantastic stories that i always think instead of letting this people carry on with this problem or have them shame and burden of asking someone else,i'd give 200,500,1000 and even 2000 Naira instead of the regular 20naira .
one said to me once at Maryland bustop that he had come to Lagos from OSU to his GF's birthday bought a gift and ran out of cash hoping to get something from her when he's leaving but on getting there she's all over another guy who he found out organised the party for her so left in anger and now he's stranded.i looked at him,Mr Lover boy and gave him a 500 as the bus cost 300.some say they want to buy inhaler,a lot say they are stranded and so many silly stories but yet i give.
Once i discussed it with my pastor and he said if i was scared i should talk to God and ask him why its happening .That's why we are a pentecoastal church.we all have access to our father in heaven.which makes big sense but not what i needed.so i brought it up at the fellowship which shows how important the fellowship can be cos its smaller gathering from the church, different people with different ideas and leader to correct misconceptions.
And finally what we agreed on was that God had a purpose and i should keep doing it, cos it's most likely a covering for something else.some other need might arise and people will stand for me.
I dont know,but for me,i think that was one of the times when the good deeds have come to stand for me!
so,that little thinG u r doing thats making people smile,please dont stop!

Abuja parole

I've been meaning to come down to Abuja for about 3 weeks now for a couple of follow ups at the ministry and some other parastatals but Lag hol me tight.finally i entered Abuja on Monday 13th.went to the ministry,did a fantastic meeting and went to catch up with my colleague who's been up here in the middle of a lots of stuff.after the meeting,its time to leave and i got settle in some comfy 5k Hotel(yes oo,5k! as man is here for 4days and in the middle of project. so no money for the usual Reiz Continental)
As we left the estate where my colleague is staying with an aunt,it starts drizzlling.sleeping at his aunts was not an option cos she's not one to bump into and moreso she's got her relatives all around too.so as the drizzling gets harder we decided to run back home and ask her to at least let him use her car to drop me at the gate.so we start running back .when we pass a wine ultima with two guys reversing to drive out, i stopped them and ask if they were going to the estate gate and i could join them.They said fine.(when my friend got home he told his aunt how i got the ride and said to her he was sure they would not just take me to the gate, but the hotel i was going.well it was more than that)
As we approached the gate,i looked at the time,twaz few mins to eight(i hate nights in Abuja.Dark,Lonely and Scary) and the place was dark of course with no cabs so i ask if they were headed to town and i could join.we started chatting and i introduced myself.the guy who was driving had actually been watching my programme and he's also PA to someone in Govt.who i have been chasing.He He!see how God works.so just lak dat,we start hunting for hotels.he took me to six!this guy who we just met,who had his own agenda for the evening.mmh!he at some point had to say'guy u must be very nice oo'for me to just be taking u around like this.and i just smile say'Na God oo.
Of the 6, 4 were booked two were just too crappy for five grand and so he just said ,hey,lets go back to the estate and am like really?and he's like yea...so we went on his own parole and when done stopped by for some nice kilishi and roasted chicken.
when we got to the hooouseee,it was a........................................................
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lol! small, cozy self contain.
He fried some nice dodo and stew(great cook acssually)with the Chicken and chilled water
we chatted and he's really a great guy,was in the media before too and i admire his vision and plans.he's off to Sierria leone the next day to spend time with his girlfriend.
we watched a movie.he slept off in the middle(not fearinG that i might kill him!!!).i made my plans for the next day and dozed off at about 1 am.
First day-twaz a rough night, but ended well.

10 Days

i've just gone through a couple of blogs and some interesting,some boring,some with heavy followership and some sparringly and some none!
i saw a particular one that has no comments at all but every post start's with...
hi people.hey ma favourite people.hello my sweet friends.and the likes.am about to start a piece now but knowing well that the last comments i got was four posts away,i do not know what to start with.....so i just say...U na well done ni ooo.
I've always said that i am not the person that sits on the net for too long.i say to myself everyday that its just lazy.so i've decided to take it step by step.i'll do a piece in every ten days at least...thinking of changing the blog name to 10days sef!but noo DebolaLagos get story.
so,pls drop by every ten days and you'll read something new and promise twill be interesting.
I've gpot loads of pictures to share with plenty plenty tori to follow.i just found my cord for my phone to laptop so get ready but sad news is that some muuuuurraaaafffuuccking(okay i take that back)smart phone engineer has just spoilt the cam of my fone and even has then gutts to say he doesn't like the way am talking to him becos he's few,i mean few years older than me.so i might not be able to take my 'on the move' pics till i get a new one..accsssually mabye its God saying...come son,go get ur blackberry.
as in everyone get blackberry for lagos oo.Lagos big boys like us soppose buy too now just for show even if we no need am. abi how u see am?
But as i always say really,i will marry when i want!

Thursday, August 9, 2007

motor wahala

its been one week of jumping buses,taxi's and my love, okada.yes oo my love.i might not have the nerve to ride a bike but i cant do without my okada cos Lag traffic no be small thing.its been an experience really.the okada's always overthrowing each other and its always like some crazy bike race.they pass between trailers and busses u think u r in some american movie.after my last meeting tonight at Jazz sessions,a new jazz restaurant on Ozumba Mbadiwe in VI.i jumped a bike to Eko hotel round about say make i catch taxi but after waiting 20mins,it seemed like they were all on holidays so i caught the next Ojuelegba;Costain bus.the driver seeing the crowd hiked his price from i think 80 bucks for costain and 100 to Ojuelegba to 120 and 150.the passengers protested but he refused.me,i no get power so i entered and a few people too.he kept on making noise about how he'll get more passengers on the road and it doesnt make sense to pick pple for even 100 bucks from roundabout becos the passengers he'll pick halfway will be 100bucks too.i really wished God will punish this man and he answered my prayer becos we got to costain on short 5 and we that he picked paid him 100bucks which he shud have charged and gotten full bus from roundabout.so instead of making 1,400 he made 900 bucks.

Now you be thankfull!


Friday, July 27, 2007

20 days after...

yeeellllo!!!!!!!!!!!!!yea, silly me,after i promised to always keep up on the blog.well,am here now and i need to update you on the gist.
20 days later.....my friend calls me again,this time i knew it was pregnancy so as soon as i saw him i started hailing, ;Papa Junior!!!' but he said no.i was thankfull to God.after hangin out for a while,he says she's been spitting and throwing up,her body movement has kind of changed.He noticed it too and last night she called him and said she might be pregnant.few days before this i had had disscussions with some people about unwanted pregnancies,abortions and all that so it was like a nightmare.Go for a test tommorrow i said.the results came out and was negative.the doctor then advised they wait a few more days to see her period.The period never came!they were both worried,i mean how would you say it,they bring a girl to stay in your house as a favour to her family and you impregnate her?Abortions was not an option either,but my friend was more worried than i was.the next day they went to a doctor who did some injection method and its get more crazzzy.......
After the injection,they then have to do a ritual......(i call it ritual because am not sure they were to enjoy it) of sleeping together again!twice!!!!! to clear whatever it is,i dunno.i was sad and worried but the deed had been done.They went back to certify but were told incomplete abortion because he didnt sleep with her properly,so they had to go through the whole ritual again.this time you wont believe how it went....he recounts that she was clawing and clasping,begging for more and moaning.... .when they went back doctor said,complete!On the way out of the hospital the nurse calls the girl,i know you she says,i know your mother too...at that point my friend wished the ground would open and swallow him.she went on,i did it because i have a daughter too who has a future and i cant afford to let her be kept back by preganancy if it was her(i think thats weird,killing a life to save a future?)go and be a good girl.The drama should have been over but no.the girl has now opened up so much and turned very vocal.she barely does stuff around the house anymore,argues with my friend when they talk.refuses errands not sadly now.no, but some arrogance.
She's done with her exams but she hasn't mentioned leaving the house.these days she stays in the sitting room till late watching whatever he's watching,she looks at him half the time ,tries to get herself on the three seater couch whenever he's sitting on it.he's worried that she'e trying to seducing and thats adding to his irritation.
Today is the fifth time in a row my friend will complain about her still staying in the house.and my response to him?i just laugh.Reaping what you've sown brother...
He had asked for her forgiveness and she has agreed,i arranged they met a counsellor but they havent come round to that.
but she is still behaving funny ,she seems to be wearing loose clothes lately and still behave tired/lazy...what if she's still pregnant?pretending its gone so that it can advance and then she can hook me...thats my friends new fear....

Friday, July 13, 2007

She wanted it but didnt say yes...Does that make sense?

I walked into my friends house from work at 10;15pm on a thursday.He was sitting on the three seater watching TV,curled up on his side was Sola.She's come to live wth them because her family relocated to Ikorodu and it wasnt too convinient for her school which was in Surulere so they made an arrangement with my friends father to please let her stay till she finished her SSCE exams.My friends father i do not understand,for i have never seen such a liberal soul.He took her in like his daughter and everything was going ok.But this night,i felt uncomfortable with how she was curled close to my friend,her head was rubbing against his leg sef!she woke up not too long after my entrance and stood up to go in,she was wearing a perfect fit pencil jeans with spaghetti top that allowed half her boobs out(it was a sexy sight i must admit,and that worried me more).She's such an innocent child in looks and quiet for that so you would ignore all that appeal,but my spirit wasnt going to be decieved.So i called uncle and asked if they were cutting show(having sex) and bros said NO!i say good,but i see danger so you have to cut yourself out and be very careful not to be too comfortable.Aaah!!norrin meeen,norrin laike dat!I say hear the words of the wise.He laughed but i didnt.

It was exactly 27days after,that my brother called me to come over,i said twaz going to be real busy day and he said to come and crash so i say cool.See ya.i got there dog tired and just wanted to sleep but of course not until i listened to him.We did it!3 nights ago.

She knelt by the couch like she had stomach ache or something,i dunno.but the backside was very ...very inviting.her waist was bare and i just grabbed her.Then i stopped,took it slowly,she struggled a bit but wasnt very hard so i took it for the normal girl posing.I asked if she didnt want it but no answer came.Thrice. So i went ahead..........................mmmmm,really i said like it was no issue.Did you have foreplay i asked(why you may wonder,i wanted to know how long and know if she enjoyed it or not.Because my friend is good looking,and so many times the girls kinda like him first.Am good looking too, excuse me!with a charming personality to add.but he, his good looks and quiet personality draws them to him.and to add to it,hes got six packs but me,na portruding belle o.so my dear miss i guess might have been tripping too)yes ,we had foreplay and in all these she was a little resistent but it wasnt different from a girl posing.(abeeg who fit tell me the difference between this my friend situation and girl wey no wan do?i need answer ooo).Did she respond when you penetrated,not really,she needs to learn how to show ectasy.i say shuo,she needs to learn?yea he said.she was moaning a bit but her face squeezed kind of. when i askedhow many rounds,i was just making a fool but i was shocked my ma paddy said two!haba!u do am by force do two times again?he smiled,she wanted it too.it isnt funny bro,you just raped a seventeen year old gal!once i said that,the gravity of what he had done dawned on me,but i wasnt still sure he got the message so i went down a couselling sessions with him(i didnt say earlier,i'v had some little training as counsellor,did a bitof human assessment so a lot of times am the Dr.Phil amongst my circle of friends)She had stopped speaking to him,she couldnt stand him or look at him.
She was ashamed i told him,she feels naked, shes lost her pride.rather,u stole her pride!Next step was to go and apologise till she forgives him and they both repent(yea,the christain part of me)

Tori still plenty o!Stick around.

Thursday, July 12, 2007

Some thought's to share

I've been a lazy ass blogging.ive got loads of pictures and stuff i wanna talk about but my day's kinda really crazy and am not too good with sitting on the PC for so long but i really want to do this and will find time.
Today i was going through some old papers and came upon some poems i wrote a different times of my life way back and thogth to share them.....


I fear...
Something trouble's my heart
Something i dont understand
Something i cant really place
Something i dont know if i can face

My heart is heavy
And i feel nervy
I wonder what burden
with which am laden

I know not where to run
Not who to turn
To flee is cowardice
Pretense is never nice

I fear...I fear...


This was a phase i went through and funny enough i couldnt even place why.soon i felt like i had to flee from this feeling so i wrote another

I flee...
I flee from it
I flee from him
I flee from them

I flee from the unseen
I flee from the unfelt
I flee from the unheard

I flee from being bitten
I flee from being smitten
I flee into hiding

I flee from something
that i feel throbbing
though you may say nothing
but i still flee

I flee what i see not
I flee from that i know not


Still i couldnt place it.and as time went by it fizzled away.
looking back later,i had school,work,family and all to battle with at the sametime.Not loosing any and doing well at every.swarmped under that pressure couldnt even look to see the issues but,it passed by.

And talking about work as one of those issues,sometimes then i was worried if it was i who wasnt doing fantastic at work or the company itself and my boss that had the problem.
I had the battle with myself and expressed...

They say am in the wrong place
They say i cant run the race
They say ill be better in another phase
They say there i'll make a face

Andi take a deep breath
Deeper into my thoughts
bloom where you are planted
that is what i was thought

But...
What if theres no planter
What if there's no water
What if the land isnt fertile
What if the land has gone sterile

Oh ye wise heads
come take lead
arrange my lie beads
that i may take heed


I didnt get any help from the wise heads so i had to make my own decision and i look back today and thank God it paid off.it was a risk but i took it cos life of course is about risks.

Thursday, June 7, 2007

Today am Disvirgined!

am a viring Killer!
am a virgin drunkard!
am a virgin smoker!
today i loose my virginity as a blogger!
Two things happen when you loose virginity,
Withdraw or Explore...
I choose to explore!

Virginity
is not
Dignity
It is just
lack of
Opportunity!
DebolaLagos.